What you need to do is simply change you’re thinking. Realize that where you are is a great place to be. Where you are is where gratefulness is born and developed!

Accolades, Achievements and things will never make you happy. They can, however, serve as tangible expressions of the happiness that you have defined within yourself.

Do you feel that something is missing in your life? Most likely, the only thing really missing is your commitment to fully accept and live the abundance that is already there, but maybe you haven’t taken the time to fully tap into it.

Make sure you’re always grateful for it all, for the good times and the bad times, the pleasures and the pains, the progress and the process, your setbacks. Even the setups are meant for you to go up!

The first step in stretching into your purpose is first asking questions to reveal your true power and potential.  Your roles in life, your functions and your talents all provide clues to help you discover your purpose.  This journey requires observation of your inner mirror and inner thoughts, your past successes, your desires and your dreams.  A lot of times we take matters into our own hands and devise a plan that we think will bring happiness and satisfaction but it’s really important to tune into your purpose, seek it, fulfill it and allow yourself to be happy doing what you were designed to do.

When you choose to surrender and stretch into your purpose, and allow it to manifest in your life.  You will start to receive all of the wonderful things that are created for you. You begin to accept the fact that you deserve it, and believe that it is yours.  When you are walking in your purpose the tools and the means to complete your tasks will appear. Surrendering brings the resolve needed to move forward so you can begin to live the life you were designed to live.

Remember, no one can steal an idea that’s not yours to begin with. God gives you the discernment to let you know who means you well and who you will bless by sharing.  Listen to that check in your spirit. God is the designer of your life, and all the fabulous idea’s that enter into your mind.  The way to true abundance is by rejecting the scarcity mentality.

We drive nice cars, have nice homes, furnishings and we have great jobs and  businesses. Even our own families believe that our lives are all together, when really its in shambles.

We may be unhappy; with our looks, weight, jobs or businesses etc.

However, we must take the time to look at, what I call, your “inner mirror”.  What’s that you may ask? It’s when we actually stop and take a moment to actually be still and quiet, meditate and pray and go deep inside to see why we feel this way. Imagine the inner mirror as a physical sheet of mirrored glass inside of us showing us all of the things that we don’t want to face.

We are anxious to improve our circumstances but, sometimes reluctant to improve ourselves. When we find the courage to do so, we can become strong and have the peace and confidence we desire. Take a moment and dig deep and look into your “inner mirror” , and ask God what you need to do to rebuild your life. If you listen, He will tell you.

Remember, in life, true happiness comes only from being truthful and honest with ourselves. It is that point of discovery, when we become our authentic self, and begin living a life of purpose and with purpose!

Guess what! You can’t hear it either! The most amazing thing is it forces the most powerful people to be drawn to it. Once you find it, embrace it, step into it. It’s impossible to stop.

It’s only valuable if you explore it! It will bring the greatness out of you, but you must activate it to see the results. What is it? It’s the possibilities of life! Live it, feel it, enjoy it take advantage of all your possibilities every day. Remember with faith there are infinite possibilities!

The reality is you cannot bypass the trials and tribulations of life. The best you can do is to stand and to declare victory. So you might as well stand and decide in your heart to never give up. When you’re going through your trials pause relax and take control of your mind.

How many blessings have you had in your life that first appeared as troubles? How many opportunities have you had that presented themselves as a problem?

If you run from every problem you have, you will continue to run the rest of your life. If you don’t ride out your problems and wait for a positive outcome you will always miss out on what God has in store for you.

I once heard a minister say “When God sends you a gift He wraps it up in a problem. The bigger is the problem, the bigger the gift.” That’s what I mean when I say don’t run away from the problem. If you do you’ll miss out on a blessing with your name on it.

You should never give up. Instead, use positive words and affirmations to build yourself up. Refuse to give into your problems. There’s a part of you that knows how to turn those negatives into positives. So what you need to do is to tap into.

Just in case you forget you are more powerful than you might imagine as they say, God doesn’t create junk. You are endowed with greatness!

You can have the outcome you want, no matter what adversity or obstacles that may come your way. Giving up is a temporary solution. You have to believe that your blessing is around the corner. See it through until the end. Hold on tight. You are closer than you think.

Leisa Douglas

divorcewomencan.com

You have free will to take any action you wish! Once you have taken the action, you create a destiny for yourself. Every choice has consequences. You cannot change what those consequences are. Yet you can adjust your actions to bring forth  the  desired results.

Your destiny is being created at this moment by your thoughts and actions. In order to live the destiny you are designed to live you must control yourself.  In order to be unstoppable and reach destiny you have to live with purpose and own your authentic power. Your life choice’s today forms your destiny for tomorrow. Your destiny can be unstoppable if you make it.

Remember when you were growing up? You allowed yourself to daydream about the things you desired and dreamed.  You let your mind and heart reach the area of infinite possibilities. You may have envision yourself doing wonderful things, and having the power to be unstoppable.

You may have spent so much time visualizing the goal that you begin to believe that it was no longer a dream and no one could tell you that it wasn’t real because you knew that dreams did come true.

A great intention never produces a result. You must start the process the moment you think about it. You have to live in the  now knowing your thought is a seed that your planting.  I challenge you to take the steps towards creating the life for which you have always hungered for.

Your mind is a powerful source, Leverage the power of it to create the results you want. The best is yet to come, if you choose to stretch out of your comfort zone and take the journey of what is possible and tap into your greatness, you will become all that you are capable of becoming.

If you have other friends who are single, you might consider hosting a singles only party on Valentine’s Day. You can invite your entire group of single friend and ask them each to bring someone else who is single.

You and your friends will enjoy spending time together away from all of the couples who can make Valentine’s Day seem so lonely, for those of us not in a relationship. You might even wind up meeting someone great at your Valentine’s Day party and next year you may even be a couple on Valentine’s Day.

You may also want to consider enjoying a game night.  Consider playing a match making games at the party which encourage the guests to get to know each other. Even if you do not wind up meeting someone that’s ok one of your friends might.

Some examples of some other games that you might play are The Dating Game or have a Scavenger Hunts, or even Trivia which encourage guests to find other participants. I guess I’ve become Now that I’ve been single for several years here are some of the things that I enjoyed doing on Valentine’s Day. I would invite all my single friends male and female over for cocktails, dinner and movies.  Getting everyone together in this casual atmosphere was relaxing and fun.  It was really nice to be able to let our hair down and just be ourselves.

Another way I spent Valentine’s Day without having a significant other, was spending the day with girlfriends who were single also. We spent the day hanging out thrift shopping and going to some of our favorite stores. Then later we either go out to dinner at a nice restaurant or order some take out or maybe even cook a gourmet meal.

We also make sure we buy ourselves a beautiful bouquet of flowers a wonderful desert or chocolate, rent a movie, have some cocktails and stay up all night talking girl talk until we crash.

Never feel bad for spending the day as a single or with other singles be happy for all of the couples you see in love.  Good feelings are contagious and you want to have good karma.

Look at Valentine’s Day in a different way from now on. It’s about spending the day with the people you love or care about. Have tea with your mom or dad or a friend who is single. It’s a nice feeling at the end of the day knowing you spent your Valentine’s Day with a person you cared about.

Now that I’m gone
I feel that a burden has lifted
My spirit is calm
My fears are silenced
I welcome my new awareness
Who I am and who I lost
Now that I am gone it’s time to forgive
It’s time to heal
It’s not time to blame
It’s no time for shame
I celebrate where I am
I celebrate with no fears
I celebrate with no tears
I am finally free
now it’s time to
Celebrate…Celebrate…
Who I shall be
I thank you for my lesson
No matter how bad it seemed
It turned into a blessing
for only me see
I wish you no harm
only for you to carry on
find the peace you’ve been
looking for
close any open doors
that were open before
I wish you well my friend…
My past is gone…
My battle is…
WON!
It’s time for me to carry on

By: Leisa Douglas
www.divorcewomencan.com